A Safe Place Within
by Charles Wm Skillas, PhD, DD, BCH, CI, FNGH
Until
my clients are cleared and reprogrammed, I usually create for
them a tool that helps them handle the difficulties in their
life. This tool is a safe place within themselves that they can
take themselves to whenever the stresses of life begin to plague
them. In this safe place, once created, my client can experience
a feeling of profound safety, peace, tranquility and serenity.
I build this safe place so that it has within it, a place of
safety and relaxation, freedom from all the cares and responsibilities
of life. Nothing bad, disquieting or disconcerting can reach
this safe place. Here, everything is just fine and you are completely
OK without a care or fear in the world.
I produce the safe place by pyramiding deep relaxation inductions
along with creative visualization of a place in nature that is
consistent with the client’s own sense of peace and safety.
For instance, I would not create a safe place by an ocean for someone
who is afraid of water, so I get an idea of what is satisfying
to the client by talking to him/her before proceeding. It is important
to get the client into a very deeply relaxed state before the visual
experience through progressive relaxation techniques.
Since the subconscious mind is a bio-computer, it is capable of
exercising sub-routines and I anchor the safe place to some convenient
trigger point on the client’s body using NLP technology.
When the trigger is set, all the client has to do to activate it
is touch the trigger point where the sub-routine is anchored and
his subconscious computer will take him to the images and feelings
he experienced during the safe place’s creation by exercising
the anchored sub-routine through the trigger point. Once the safe
place is created, the client must exercise it several times each
day for about a month in order for the sub-routine to be permanently
imbedded on the subconscious computer’s hard drive. Once
it is set by repetition, the client will own the safe place for
life.
I first used the idea of a safe place about twelve years ago to
help some government officials who all had intense stage fright
and who had to give briefings on their work to their bosses in
Washington, DC. There were seven of these officials and two of
them stuttered badly when under stress, which public speaking causes.
Incidentally, these gentlemen were not alone in their fear as it
is a proven fact that fear of public speaking is rated worse than
the fear of death. These officials came to me in a group for help
with their fears.
Usually, I would look
for the negative forcing functions within their subconscious
that made them so fearful of public speaking and release the
energy that supported the fear program in their subconscious
computer. However, they were not interested in going through
the necessary therapy to do this and wanted to know if I could
do something simple for them to relieve all of them of their
fear at the same time. I came up with the idea of the safe place
configured for their special need and suggested that we try it
and they agreed.
I put all of them into a very deep group trance, configured the
safe place and installed the anchor- trigger in an innocuous place
so they could actuate it without anyone noticing what they were
doing. I then brought them out of hypnosis and instructed them
to use the trigger often to imbed it into their subconscious. They
did as I asked and they later reported to me that it worked for
all of them and the two stutterers stopped stuttering when they
used the anchor-trigger. When getting ready to go on stage, they
would just touch the anchor-trigger and the feelings and images
of the safe place would flood them and all fear left them. They
were relaxed and at ease and did wonderfully in their public speaking
endeavors. The stutterers said that as soon as they felt the need
to stutter coming upon them, they would actuate the anchor-trigger
and the stuttering would immediately stop. They were all very happy
indeed.
Since then I provide my students and clients with this safe place
and they all find it beneficial in relieving stress of any kind,
including not only fear, but sadness, guilt, shame anger and other
stressful emotions. It is a great tranquilizer and has no negative
side effects. The safe place does not get rid of the source energy
of the fear buried in the subconscious, but it helps the sufferer
just as medicine does and temporarily relieves the miserable symptoms.
Dr.
Skillas is a Board Certified Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist
and Certified National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH) Hypnotherapy
Instructor. Call 404-252-4540 for details.