Life from the beginning of time has had its
ups and downs. Today many describe any negative occurrence a person’s
life as drama.
A couple recently came to me to discuss a problem they were having
in their relationship. It seemed that anything that happened in
her life was considered drama and he did not want to hear it. Her
daily work problems were not to be discussed in his presence. He
excused himself by saying that he was stressed out and taking measures
to ensure his life was DRAMA free. He said that her life was filled
with it and it was draining him. He seemed rather put out that
he was required to discuss it.
I then asked the woman the types of problems that were cropping
up in her life. None of these seemed to really be classified as
drama. I would call it the vicissitudes of life. She had an adult
daughter who was getting a divorce, a 28 year old son, who wanted
his mother to move close to his family. She also had fifteen-year-old
twins.
I asked her what types of problems she handled of his. She began
to remunerate the many times she counseled with his children. She
added she loved them, so it was not a problem. He discussed his
sibling’s problems with her because they called on a daily
basis with their problems. He had problems with friends of his
and was not happy with the way they had acted in the friendship.
She would listened while he talked about problems at work and how
he planned to leave it all to live on a tropical island.
Today’s world has recklessly described anything bringing
about discomfort as “drama”. Since this is viewed as
very undesirable behavior, with reason to discontinue relationships,
everyone runs from the word. |
People who have a problem fear that someone will
accuse them of having drama in their life. The very word is so
over used! Let us look at the definitions of the word as defined
by MSN Encarta:
1. Theater performed play: a serious play written for performance on stage,
television, or radio
4. Exciting event: a real-life event or situation that is particularly exciting
or emotionally involving the drama of the trapped climbers
After looking over the definitions of this word, try to compare it to the context
in which you have heard it applied. I have seen many a person make a grandiose
display of a small problem. Whenever you find someone who indulges in this behavior,
you often feel you are at the grand opening of a play. Presenting a situation
in such a manner that it could be made into a mini series or a “soap box
opera” could be called drama.
It is extremely important to differentiate between the true meaning and
the grossly misused implication. The man in our example used the threat of alienation
if he became too stressed. This kept him from having to deal with give and take
of a true functional relationship.
Life has its ups and downs, its good and bad, its problems and its blessings.
At some points in everyone’s life they will have more problems than usual.
This is when a true friend will be there to listen and console. Do not belittle
someone’s problems. Instead add to the world and give from your heart.
Rhiannon Waits is an internationally renowned
seer. She makes her home in Pensacola Florida and may be reached
at 800-941-4190.
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